The Noisy Israeli: Shouting and Screaming In Daily Life
If you just got to Israel, your first
big surprise may be shouting and screaming on the street. Yet,
Israelis seem to feel perfectly fine in carrying a conversation in
excited high volume levels, and bordering on the violent. Sometimes
you may see two perfectly normal adults screaming at each other as if
they are ready to duke it out, just to turn completely calm minutes
later. The ability to “take it” and “dish it out”,
accept screaming and scream back, is something that most foreigners
never gain. It is also something that separates some Israelis from
others. This conduct is not for everyone. There are plenty of native
Israelis who choose not to partake in this practice. Yet, there is
still plenty to go around, so keep your ears (and eyes) open and be
careful not to take it personally.
For some reason, it seems like in some
roles (either professions or job functions) is more acceptable in
high-volume shouting style. In these jobs, shouting is more
acceptable, and some even demand the behavior. I just passed a
construction site, repairs to a street and sidewalk in a busy
intersection between Ramat Gan and Givatay'im. While the sidewalk is
torn apart, workers are busy finishing laying bricks and setting
light poles. Some are sitting around eating their lunch or just
watching others. Apparently, the site manager was not there and a
city inspector happen to check on the work. The inspector, a
30-something professionally dressed man (collared shirt and cleanly
pressed pants). But what a surprise, he was busy screaming about the
missing site manager to someone on the phone. The strange thing was
how calm the workers just inches away were reacting, to this
seemingly violent outburst. I assume that in the construction sector
this kind of communication style was acceptable and maybe even
welcome. Just to see what will happen, I waited nearby. After
screaming at the top of his lungs for a few minutes, the man finished
and turned completely calm and composed. He went from full blown
screaming, with crackling throaty voice, to normal tone. The workers
around him, asked a few questions here and there, and he left looking
perfectly satisfied.
I presume that in the roles of managing
tradesman and blue collar workers, managers with high-volume
screaming style is more acceptable than in white collar office jobs.
Yet, at a medical clinic, I saw a patient screaming at an
administrator, just to see a physician pop his head out to scream
back at the patient to take the administrator's side. A similar
situation occurred in the bank just a few weeks ago. With a long line
of irate customers, waiting for an hour to reach the counters, a
customer was complaining about the line, the way it was organized
(some people were “jumping” their turn) and in general the bad
service at exorbitant fees. Just to have a bank vice president show
up behind the counters, first speaking calmly and then joining the
tone of the customer in a quick, yet violent exchange. It seems like
in this bank, the counter staff are calm and controlled enough not to
“dish it out” back at customers. Although, in a previous
instance, I saw a young counter worker, a nice and quiet women,
completely break down to tears when a customer came up and started
screaming at her. The same service vice president took the worker to
his office and left the customer screaming at empty space for a few
seconds. Then sent another worker to finish the transaction. So the
rules of engagements can be fluid... I guess.
to be continued...
Comments
In the US, where I came from, violent emotion on the street (or from automobiles) too often turns into physical violence.
But, here it simply doesn't happen. It's as if there exists a sense of unspoken connect or love even between strangers in public and even during a heated argument or a violent verbal outburst. I think this also might occur in a few other Mediterranean countries, but I'm not sure.
In the US, where I came from, violent emotion on the street (or from automobiles) too often turns into physical violence.
But, here it simply doesn't happen. It's as if there exists a sense of unspoken connect or love even between strangers in public and even during a heated argument or a violent verbal outburst. I think this also might occur in a few other Mediterranean countries, but I'm not sure.